Confused about consent?

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Are you confused about consent? Making sure you have your partner’s consent for any kind of sexual activity is absolutely vital to a healthy relationship, and broadly speaking, sexual assault is defined as any sexual activity that occurs without an individual’s consent.

To help you understand what consent is and what it isn’t, here are six easy to remember tips from our Sexual Assault program team:

  1. Influence of Alcohol or Drugs is NOT Legal Ability to Consent

It is impossible for someone under the influence of alcohol or a controlled substance to legally say “yes” to sex.

  1. Yes Yesterday is NOT Yes Today

Prior sexual activity and consent doesn’t mean consent is automatically given in the future, even if you’re in a committed relationship.

  1. Yes Now is NOT Yes 5 Minutes from Now

Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Your partner has the right to change his or her mind at any time during an intimate encounter.

  1. Flirting or Kissing is NOT an Invitation for Sexual Activity

Just because someone is flirting with you or even kissing you does not mean they will welcome any sexual contact. Assumptions do not create consent.

  1. Persuaded or Coerced Yes IS NOT Yes

A verbal “yes” that is forced or given out of fear is not active consent. Once a person says “no”, it cannot be turned into a “yes” during that encounter.

  1. Silence IS NOT Yes

Consent is not the absence of a “no”. Lack of protest or resistance does not imply permission. If someone doesn’t say “yes”, it means “no.”

Consent IS Yes that is:

  • Affirmative!
  • Informed!
  • Freely given!
  • Specific!
  • Reversible!
  • Enthusiastic!

 

If you have been affected by sexual assault, we are here for you. You can call our Crisis Hotline, 24 hours a day, in confidence at 281-342-HELP (4357). You can also click here to learn more about our Sexual Assault Program.